Relationship

On the topic of relationship with a friend the other day, discussing about the length of a relationship and more essentially how does a relationship even start?

When you started to dating someone, does that count as a relationship? Well that's psycho's talking. Hello! way to early even to think of that. Okay let's get back to beginning, when is the moment you realise that you are moving from an appointment with a friend to dating a friend? How do you define that line when is the moment you cross? More importantly, how do you know both of you are the other side of the line?

Let's say you guys cross the line either together or one after the one, the dating started. How oftren you should date a person so you feel that the dating is sound? How much you should invest in this dating thing and based on what? When is the moment you feel so comfortable to receive and to give without feeling 'sure?'? Is it better to take and give as granted? Or maybe granted is too much as a word, as to enjoy the giving and taking? How much is enough that the other knows you care about him/her but not too much to give the other pressure and/or scare the other away?

Or maybe we are thinking too much about all this dating thing. Love is a tricky business or we wouldnt hear so much about it from time to time. Deep down inside, we all know what to do when dealing with emotion and what's reasonable to do. Yet if we are all that rational, how do all these emotional feelings coming from? Whendealing the feelings are all based on emotions, is it too much ask not to be emotional?

Or maybe all these quantitilising of feelings is simply just too much to ask. Some people are crazy in love at once, some people like to take thing slow, some people like to slow down thing, and sometimes it's just a 'he/she is just not that into you' scenario. So let the motion dealing with all these then. Even with all the possible standard of how to define everything, and how you deal rational, at the end of day, it is your feeling tells you how you feel about this person and how you would like to do at this moment.

Maybe it's not something you do or don't do, it's just you do the thing to wrong person or wrong timing. Wrong is too strong as a word, it's just he/she isn't the at the right moment for you or he/she isn't there yet.

Mike blogged from N97